I guess I don't have a problem, more like a situation. I recently started hooking up with this younger guy who is totally inappropriate for me. I am at the settling down stage in life and he is still into hitting the clubs and running the streets. I should have left him alone as soon as I found out his background info but the chemistry between us could not be denied. We had sex the first time we hung out and it was amazing. Even though I love it, I ask myself should I really be doing this? Something must be going on because I am already trying to fix and change him. Which is ridiculous, because he was who he was when I met him, therefore it is what it is. Shouldn't I be holding out for someone more on the same page as me? What do you think?
I understand how complicated this can be....and sex further complicates things because the emotions are influenced by the chemistry. The more sex, the more complicated. If you know he's inappropriate for you and you're not just basing this on your age difference, then you should keep your options open and continue dating other man until the right one comes along. If you could handle it sexually, meaning without getting caught up, there's nothing wrong with proceeding while practicing safe sex. If you're not certain you could handle that, move on. Don't settle, just because you're ready to settle down.
I have an amazing woman with whom I've been with for 5 years now. She's been pressing me for marriage but the thing is, I've been sleeping with my neighbor--------and it's a man. Not sure if I'm gay, because I'm very much attracted to my lady, I just love how inhibited it feels to be with him. I'd never leave her for him, he's married with children and he'd never leave his wife for me either. Thing is, I don't think I could ever marry her because of this. What should I do?
@ Charles: You need to leave your woman immediately and seek some serious therapy. What you’re doing is not only deceitful, it's dangerous. You don't have the right to put your lady's health at risk. Your lover needs to do the same, but that's another story. Being gay is one thing, betraying someone by living a lie is another....and yes, you are gay....embrace it and move on with your life before you get caught up in a law suit scandal.
My man is boring me. All he wants to do is stay in and watch flicks and sports center. We've only been together a year and it's starting to feel like we're an old married couple. I keep expressing to him how this makes me feel but there's no improvement. He always promises we'd go out, then it's, " I'm so tired babe". Ugh! What do I do? I'm starting to resent this relationship.
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I guess I don't have a problem, more like a situation. I recently started hooking up with this younger guy who is totally inappropriate for me. I am at the settling down stage in life and he is still into hitting the clubs and running the streets. I should have left him alone as soon as I found out his background info but the chemistry between us could not be denied. We had sex the first time we hung out and it was amazing. Even though I love it, I ask myself should I really be doing this? Something must be going on because I am already trying to fix and change him. Which is ridiculous, because he was who he was when I met him, therefore it is what it is. Shouldn't I be holding out for someone more on the same page as me? What do you think?
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ReplyDeleteI understand how complicated this can be....and sex further complicates things because the emotions are influenced by the chemistry. The more sex, the more complicated. If you know he's inappropriate for you and you're not just basing this on your age difference, then you should keep your options open and continue dating other man until the right one comes along. If you could handle it sexually, meaning without getting caught up, there's nothing wrong with proceeding while practicing safe sex. If you're not certain you could handle that, move on. Don't settle, just because you're ready to settle down.
I have an amazing woman with whom I've been with for 5 years now. She's been pressing me for marriage but the thing is, I've been sleeping with my neighbor--------and it's a man. Not sure if I'm gay, because I'm very much attracted to my lady, I just love how inhibited it feels to be with him. I'd never leave her for him, he's married with children and he'd never leave his wife for me either. Thing is, I don't think I could ever marry her because of this. What should I do?
ReplyDelete@ Charles: You need to leave your woman immediately and seek some serious therapy. What you’re doing is not only deceitful, it's dangerous. You don't have the right to put your lady's health at risk. Your lover needs to do the same, but that's another story. Being gay is one thing, betraying someone by living a lie is another....and yes, you are gay....embrace it and move on with your life before you get caught up in a law suit scandal.
ReplyDeleteMy man is boring me. All he wants to do is stay in and watch flicks and sports center. We've only been together a year and it's starting to feel like we're an old married couple. I keep expressing to him how this makes me feel but there's no improvement. He always promises we'd go out, then it's, " I'm so tired babe". Ugh! What do I do? I'm starting to resent this relationship.
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