I've been with my man for 2 years now. I love everything about him, except the sex. It's just so orchestrated, no passion. What can I do to get him to improve?
Try communicating this to him, lead the way in bed....not by being insulting or demanding, but by being sexy and encouraging, ex:"Honey I'd luv how it feels, if you do that or this..."....try toys, games, lubes, etc. If that fails, encourage him to join you in Karma Sultra. If that fails.....perhaps he's just not your sexual match, re-evaluate your relationship.
Hello Mz Kim. just recently found out that my best friend has been secretly dating my best guy friend. Thing is, I've had the biggest crush on my guy BFF and she knew that. What bothers me more, is that he's the one who told me, not her. How should I address her about this situation. Do you think it's shady?
I'm pregnant and I'm not sure if I should keep it. I'm in a great relationship but I'm only 22 and my boyfriend 26. We've been living together for 2 years now and both of us have great jobs. Thing is, I just got a promotion at work which will require lots of travelng. The salary increase is great but it's not the ideal situation for a kid. I'm 4 weeks along, and not sure if I should tell my boyfriend since I'm not sure I'll keep it. Only person I've told is my sister who thinks I should keep it. What should I do?
I'm not such a great cook but I try. Pasta, steak, breakfast, I'm OK. At least I try. My girl doesn't cook. I work, pay the bills, pay the rent, etc and she won't lift a finger. Not even to pour milk in my bowl of cereal. I've expressed to her many times how important this is to me, it's the least she could do. She says she will but she never does. What can I do to get her to fulfill this wish?
Went on a date with this guy i've been eyeing for months! Was so happy when he finally asked me out. Great date, beautiful restaurant, etc. The bill comes at the end of the night and not only did he NOT pick it up, he avoided it like the plague. Eventually I picked it up. Paid for it and this fool looked at me and said "are you good?" I just added the tip and left. Do you think I over reacted?
@Kat: Yes, I think it's shady. As your best friend, she not only should've told you, but she should've ASKED you if it was ok to move in on him. Thing is, she knew how you felt about him and totally disregarded your feelings. However, understand, your guy friend may not be aware of your feelings, therefore is not held accountable. Without getting into a screaming match, let your BFF know how her actions have hurt you and that you felt betrayed by them. If she's a true friend, she'll be apologetic, even putting your feelings first in similiar situations from this moment on. If she isn't, she will continue to down play her actions. If she does, proceed with caution and gradually remove your self from what could potentially be a toxic relationship.
@ Confused: This is a very sensitive subject. Never make a decision to terminate your pregnancy without being 100% certain. My advice is that you speak to your partner, you may be able to come to an agreement and work this out. Besides, he should know and assist with what you decide. If necessary, seek therapy to help you through this.
@ Good man: What you can do to get your lady to meet you half way, is to stop doing half the thing you do if she doesn't. You're not asking for much, a relationship is a partnership. Have one more conversation with her letting her know how important it is to you, that she tries a lil harder to meet your needs. If she's not selfish, she'll take heed and step her game up. If she is selfish, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. Figure out if this is something you're will to back down on or not. Whatever you say and/or do, keep your method approachable and persuasive, not demanding.
@First Last Date: No, you under-reacted by paying this lames bill...but that's just me. Nothing worst than a cheap date. "Are you good"? No, you're great and great women don't date dumb dudes. Hopefully you have no intentions of seeing this loser again. Best advice, next time DON'T pay the bill.
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I've been with my man for 2 years now. I love everything about him, except the sex. It's just so orchestrated, no passion. What can I do to get him to improve?
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ReplyDeleteTry communicating this to him, lead the way in bed....not by being insulting or demanding, but by being sexy and encouraging, ex:"Honey I'd luv how it feels, if you do that or this..."....try toys, games, lubes, etc. If that fails, encourage him to join you in Karma Sultra. If that fails.....perhaps he's just not your sexual match, re-evaluate your relationship.
Hello Mz Kim. just recently found out that my best friend has been secretly dating my best guy friend. Thing is, I've had the biggest crush on my guy BFF and she knew that. What bothers me more, is that he's the one who told me, not her. How should I address her about this situation. Do you think it's shady?
ReplyDeleteI'm pregnant and I'm not sure if I should keep it. I'm in a great relationship but I'm only 22 and my boyfriend 26. We've been living together for 2 years now and both of us have great jobs. Thing is, I just got a promotion at work which will require lots of travelng. The salary increase is great but it's not the ideal situation for a kid. I'm 4 weeks along, and not sure if I should tell my boyfriend since I'm not sure I'll keep it. Only person I've told is my sister who thinks I should keep it. What should I do?
ReplyDeleteI'm not such a great cook but I try. Pasta, steak, breakfast, I'm OK. At least I try. My girl doesn't cook. I work, pay the bills, pay the rent, etc and she won't lift a finger. Not even to pour milk in my bowl of cereal. I've expressed to her many times how important this is to me, it's the least she could do. She says she will but she never does. What can I do to get her to fulfill this wish?
ReplyDeleteWent on a date with this guy i've been eyeing for months! Was so happy when he finally asked me out. Great date, beautiful restaurant, etc. The bill comes at the end of the night and not only did he NOT pick it up, he avoided it like the plague. Eventually I picked it up. Paid for it and this fool looked at me and said "are you good?" I just added the tip and left. Do you think I over reacted?
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ReplyDeleteYes, I think it's shady. As your best friend, she not only should've told you, but she should've ASKED you if it was ok to move in on him. Thing is, she knew how you felt about him and totally disregarded your feelings. However, understand, your guy friend may not be aware of your feelings, therefore is not held accountable. Without getting into a screaming match, let your BFF know how her actions have hurt you and that you felt betrayed by them. If she's a true friend, she'll be apologetic, even putting your feelings first in similiar situations from this moment on. If she isn't, she will continue to down play her actions. If she does, proceed with caution and gradually remove your self from what could potentially be a toxic relationship.
@ Confused: This is a very sensitive subject. Never make a decision to terminate your pregnancy without being 100% certain. My advice is that you speak to your partner, you may be able to come to an agreement and work this out. Besides, he should know and assist with what you decide. If necessary, seek therapy to help you through this.
ReplyDelete@ Good man: What you can do to get your lady to meet you half way, is to stop doing half the thing you do if she doesn't. You're not asking for much, a relationship is a partnership. Have one more conversation with her letting her know how important it is to you, that she tries a lil harder to meet your needs. If she's not selfish, she'll take heed and step her game up. If she is selfish, then you need to reevaluate your relationship. Figure out if this is something you're will to back down on or not. Whatever you say and/or do, keep your method approachable and persuasive, not demanding.
ReplyDelete@First Last Date: No, you under-reacted by paying this lames bill...but that's just me. Nothing worst than a cheap date. "Are you good"? No, you're great and great women don't date dumb dudes. Hopefully you have no intentions of seeing this loser again. Best advice, next time DON'T pay the bill.
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