My wife and I have been together for 9 years,married 2, Lately she's been expressing to me how much she wants to have a baby. I already have 2 kids, from a prior relationship. Thing is, I don't want any more kids. I'm 38 and my wife is 35. My boys are in college and I've gotten use to the freedom I now have. Problem is, I've always promised her that we'd have our own kid, especially because she wants a daughter. She doesn't have any kids. How do I tell her I no longer want any more kids? I've changed my mind, is this wrong? Isn't it better to be honest about these things?
My man has the WORST feet; they look like feet of a reptile. I've never told him, because he's so sensitive. It's even worst now because he wears flip flops. I get embarrassed when we're in public. I pray no one is looking at them but how could you not? People usually look down at them, then right at me. A pedicure won't fix his problem, he needs some major surgery and he has great health benefits. I'm afraid if we have a child, the feet will be like his. What should I say to him?
You promised her that you two would have a child, and then you realize you don't want anymore at the tail end of her child bearing years?? That's brutal. You need to tell your wife ASAP about your decision. I understand your reasons for not wanting anymore; however, no matter what...this isn't fair to your wife because you've promised her. Hopefully you change your mind or come to some sort of compromise. If anything, I hope the love you both have for each other gets you through this. Yes, it's always to be honest about these things.
I HATE my girl’s dog! It’s always barking and shitting all over the place. Thing is, I brought it for her. What do I do? Don’t want to hurt her feelings.
Hey Mz Kim, I want to cut my hair so bad but my man would kill me! He loves long hair. I keep telling him, it’s just hair. He said he’d seriously dump me if I cut it, help!
I'm dating the perfect woman for me, so I thought. Intelligent, successful, beautiful, just awesome! However, she has one nasty habit. She smokes. I hate cigarettes! The smell in the hair, clothes, breath, it's disgusting! Problem is, I just found out a few months ago although, we've been together 2 years. She's been keeping it from me. One day I decided to surprise her for lunch at her job. When I approached her building, there she was right at the entrance smoking like a chimney! Tainted my whole fantasy. She claims she only smokes on works breaks, to calm her stress due to work etc. Still, had a known she smokes from jump, we would've never hooked up. One cigarette is one too many. Says she wants to quit, but she has yet to. Not sure if I can continue in this relationship if she continues to smoke. Am I being petty?
It's not so much as what you say; it's how you say it. Make sure he's in a good mood. Sit him down in private and have a pow wow. No nice way to say this..... but don't insult him. Come to the table with helpful solutions, to help him mask the problem as oppose to magnifying it, like suggesting less open toe shoes. If he handles it well to this point, do your research first, and then bring him a cosmetic surgery brochure. Also be aware of your own physical flaws or issues. If you don't want to be judged in return, don't judge. Last but not least. please spare him you concern over your future child's feet.
You are not your hair. He sounds shallow, I'd cut my hair just to piss him off. First get a consult, and a friend's opinion on how you look with short hair. Would be a blower if it didn't look good and you didn't like it yourself. Then go for it, it's just hair!
@ Allen M.: Nothing wrong with you wanting your girlfriend to be healthy. With that being said, if you really don't want out, communicate your concerns and preferences and help her quit. At least start from there. If she wants to quit, then there you go. If she doesn't, then there you go....out of the relationship.
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My wife and I have been together for 9 years,married 2, Lately she's been expressing to me how much she wants to have a baby. I already have 2 kids, from a prior relationship. Thing is, I don't want any more kids. I'm 38 and my wife is 35. My boys are in college and I've gotten use to the freedom I now have. Problem is, I've always promised her that we'd have our own kid, especially because she wants a daughter. She doesn't have any kids. How do I tell her I no longer want any more kids? I've changed my mind, is this wrong? Isn't it better to be honest about these things?
ReplyDeleteMy man has the WORST feet; they look like feet of a reptile. I've never told him, because he's so sensitive. It's even worst now because he wears flip flops. I get embarrassed when we're in public. I pray no one is looking at them but how could you not? People usually look down at them, then right at me. A pedicure won't fix his problem, he needs some major surgery and he has great health benefits. I'm afraid if we have a child, the feet will be like his. What should I say to him?
ReplyDelete@No More Kids:
ReplyDeleteYou promised her that you two would have a child, and then you realize you don't want anymore at the tail end of her child bearing years?? That's brutal. You need to tell your wife ASAP about your decision. I understand your reasons for not wanting anymore; however, no matter what...this isn't fair to your wife because you've promised her. Hopefully you change your mind or come to some sort of compromise. If anything, I hope the love you both have for each other gets you through this. Yes, it's always to be honest about these things.
I HATE my girl’s dog! It’s always barking and shitting all over the place. Thing is, I brought it for her. What do I do? Don’t want to hurt her feelings.
ReplyDeleteHey Mz Kim, I want to cut my hair so bad but my man would kill me! He loves long hair. I keep telling him, it’s just hair. He said he’d seriously dump me if I cut it, help!
ReplyDeleteI'm dating the perfect woman for me, so I thought. Intelligent, successful,
ReplyDeletebeautiful, just awesome! However, she has one nasty habit. She smokes. I hate
cigarettes! The smell in the hair, clothes, breath, it's disgusting! Problem is, I
just found out a few months ago although, we've been together 2 years. She's
been keeping it from me. One day I decided to surprise her for lunch at her job.
When I approached her building, there she was right at the entrance smoking like
a chimney! Tainted my whole fantasy. She claims she only smokes on works breaks,
to calm her stress due to work etc. Still, had a known she smokes from jump, we
would've never hooked up. One cigarette is one too many. Says she wants to quit,
but she has yet to. Not sure if I can continue in this relationship if she
continues to smoke. Am I being petty?
@ James Harris:
ReplyDeleteJust tell her, if not..........you'll only end up taking it out on the poor doggie like Mike (Vick).
@Love him, hate his feet:
ReplyDeleteIt's not so much as what you say; it's how you say it. Make sure he's in a good mood. Sit him down in private and have a pow wow. No nice way to say this..... but don't insult him. Come to the table with helpful solutions, to help him mask the problem as oppose to magnifying it, like suggesting less open toe shoes. If he handles it well to this point, do your research first, and then bring him a cosmetic surgery brochure. Also be aware of your own physical flaws or issues. If you don't want to be judged in return, don't judge. Last but not least. please spare him you concern over your future child's feet.
@ Natasha:
ReplyDeleteYou are not your hair. He sounds shallow, I'd cut my hair just to piss him off. First get a consult, and a friend's opinion on how you look with short hair. Would be a blower if it didn't look good and you didn't like it yourself. Then go for it, it's just hair!
@ Allen M.: Nothing wrong with you wanting your girlfriend to be healthy. With that being said, if you really don't want out, communicate your concerns and preferences and help her quit. At least start from there. If she wants to quit, then there you go. If she doesn't, then there you go....out of the relationship.
ReplyDelete